Deal With Stress

When we are overloaded,  we can't manage anything , we just stop doing the work in front of us. The feeling is just as the brain's stop. What is this called? Stress?

Have you ever thought why we can not cope with stress very easily. For years, people are trying to find the ways to handle the stress at their business, private life. But they show different reactions to different incidents. Some cry, some shout, some have though arguements, some have nightmares, long sleep time, drinking too much,  overeating, using drugs, smoking and some may have little interest on daily activities they used to love doing. This may show that we people naturally find different responds for fighting the stress in order to protect our brains from going mad and also do not seem as the best ways to deal with your stress, so you have to find healthier ones to lead a better life.

While we are spending our lives with hard work, school, children, visiting the other's private days, watching a neighbour's children's play, most of the hours start to become as extra responsibilities.

But you can observe what makes you feel calm, stop your anxiety. This is your life, not any others', so from now on you may share more time and pay attention to what is going on while your life is slipping by.

Some people around you can cause all your anxiety, depression which the stress leads to mostly. Stop seeing them if possible, or lower your communication, stop argueing .

Do not hide your feelings, just tell your friends, family, your spouse what annoys you and try to express all your feelings with anyhow it results by.





source:helpguide.org

5 EFFECTIVE WAYS FOR BOOSTING YOUR MOOD

Here is a list I made for myself a few months ago, I try doing most of them and it  works when i eagerly do it. You can prepare your own list if you thoroughly think.

1) Wear your sports clothes and go out for a long walk. 

Walking and listening to the music you enjoy will help distract your negative feelings as more oxygen will reach to your brain. Try to walk at least half an hour. Don't think about your ex lover, your annoying business or negative people around or the person you get angry that day. Just focus around you, what the weather is like, the trees, beautiful people, smiling and naughty children....

2) Prepare a goal list for yourself. Trying to do something different every other day will help you feel yourself a more important important person than you are. Read a different blog or article about something you are interested in, try to learn some words for a language you most like to learn compeletly, ITalian, Spanish or even Latin language. (You know the most beautiful words are from Latin language :))

 Do not see your negative friends annoying you during your tender moments. I love Mark Twain's word for ambition. " Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitiouns. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great." 

3) Help someone . There are many people waiting for help around the world. You may not have enough money to feed yourself , but you can give place to an old lady or man if you are in a subway or bus, automated teller machine or in a shopping center at a paying counter, you will absolutely see a smiling face showing their gratitude to you in return for your favor.

4) Call the person you enjoy talking. Talking to your best friend or one of your parents will help you feel better, at least you can share your feeling with them for a few minutes and forget the poor business.

5) Buy something you like.This shouldn't be something you can buy any time. Here, the important point is to have a target for something, so you should collect some money for a period of time to have something , this will show your eagerness and patience and ambition so at the end you will reach your reward and this is really a great feeling. You can collect small moneys at your pig coinbox, or you can save some after paying all the bills at the end of the month and go and buy a smart dress for a night dinner. If you are earning well, you can go and get a membership for a sports club so you can have more time for socializing, meeting different people. 

Krill Oil And Omega 3

Nowadays, people are searching for different forms of energy combiners, depression defeaters, and for a healthier life they are looking for supplements .

One of them is Omega 3 which claims to help prevent many diseases including heart -related illnesses. The Omega 3 is known to heal cardiac diseases, rheumatoid arthritis and really as effective as the fluoexetine (Prozac) so most people are eating salmon fish like freaks, swallowing omega 3 tablets and trying to find omega 3 sources.

But nowadays a rival appeared across this big healthy thing. Krill Oil! So what is Krill Oil?

I heard of it once in Mehmet Oz's video, (see below) he was talking about this thing as if he had just conquered the USA and he was so convincingly explaining the effects and it seemed to have more EPA and DHA in the tablet forms comparing the omega 3 and it was said to be more absorbable as it is in oil form.

So Krill Oil maybe useful for people can not swallow the big tablets of the fish oils, and the benefits maybe identified by the studies and the comments should be made by the scientists and the people using them.

As I said before, the most known benefits is it is

1) More absorbable

2) It is claimed to have more EPA and DHA in its form.

I think it is more expensive comparing omega 3 as it is a different form of Omega 3.

I will try it after finishing my omega 3 tablets and will share my experiences with you very soon.

Let Matters Take Their Course

We force.. .I see people used to force things to happen in another way, does it help? Yes, but does it work? Absolutely no....











The more we insist on something, the more we take the adverse, right? So, knowing this, why do we all still force things to happen in the way we choose or direct .

Some people have the kind of personality that puts pressure on others. I don't know why but they seem to ensure themselves as such and probably they play off the people around them, sound like pragmatic?

Have you ever met someone who is so much happy to be treated like the pets have owners to be obeyed... I don't think so.

Reproaches may not seem as innocent as you do behave.

-You used to call me  more often. Darling, don't you love me any more?                                            
-   No babe, of course I love you. (Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr)                                                                               

You may be respected as you are a dominant person, but the person you are in a relation may revenge secretly. ( Am I daydreaming or magnifying? ) I don't think so. This is true. At least this is my idea.                                                                                                                                                          

Your plans will not everytime has it down pat. Not every people are good at communication and are able to tell you their real reflections, so trying hard makes sometimes negative impacts. Just let it free. Inhibitions may cause people feel more pressures.                                                                                                                   

                                                  

To Be Able To Say No

I wish I could fulfill every spoken word as I write. It seems easy, but isn't. You get bored after a busy work day and would like to go out and see your boyfriend. You wait his call but he does not. He would like to sleep instead of seeing you.

Or you ended a full week and afterwards waiting for enjoying at the weekend. You are waiting for your friends' invitations or you call them but they say they are busy and can not go out.

Finally, you called your mum and ask her what she is doing, is she allright etc. She speaks to you for a few minutes and says she is busy , should go out for dinner with daddy and have to hang up, and yes shuts it off.

Those 3 examples may not be familiar but most of us should have faced it at least once. And then you start to worry about what is wrong. Are you too much interested or too much eager to do something, no. Perhaps you are  one of the people who can not say "no" before your friend, your boyfriend or mother...So:

*If you have a programmed life, you most probably do not have time to say yes. So automatically you become one of the "no" people. And be sure it will seem cool.

*When you have a B plan for your daily programme, you will be able to say "no" again. So find a different activity if you do not want to be disappointed when you hear the usual"no".

* Just try to say "no" even if you die for doing something for once, maybe day by day you can get used to it , who knows!!

Cure Yourself With Inspiration

Do you ever wake up thinking what will happen that day and how you will cope with that stress? Most of us experience this .Some of us woke up after an enjoyable but an evening full of alcohol.

And afterwards you find yourself saying "what have I done yesterday, and you feel regret. This feeling infects you , and at that moment you know what I do? I say to myself" I'm ok, I feel ok, I don't regret. I feel ok". The important point is to get out of that decision and feel the "now". Just keep on saying that many many times and get out of the bed. You will distract yourself and trust me you will feel better.

This is at least for running away from that terrible feeling you feel after a bad night. It is not necessary you do not have to be drunk the day before. Maybe you break up with your boyfriend or you lost your job, you have to pay for rent again or something else you want to forget about. Just keep on saying this to yourself:" It's ok, everythig is ok, I am allright" The most importnat point here is to repeat that inspiring sentences to yourself many times again and again.

Of course I do not promise you to solve all your problems but it will at least quiten the pain you feel in your heart while you remember the present problems. Do this everyday after waking up if you remember something bad and you regret. You will be surprised when you feel that it really works .

Depression And The Demartini Method

Today, I have come across a video at youtube, Demartini method, a man talking about many methods to defeat people's daily problems, depression, social problems ,family, financial problems, etc. Most of you should have heard about him, he is a well -known speaker, author, educator.

One thing I realised is that he really is a good speaker and seems really realistic and positive while speaking.You can understand this while you are listening to him, because he has different types of solutions for every problems we face in our daily lives. And the subjects he talks about are really applicable so that many people around the world are buying his books and cd's to improve themselves, I really appreciate his effort.

The noteworthy point I realised about the video I watched today is that, he does not explain the depression as an "illness" but the stage of the cure. This relly fascinated me. I also heard about this from many pscyhiatrists on tv , but they weren't so much volunteer to explain this finding and they weren't so convincing as Mr. Demartini. Maybe the thing i not to say only but to claim and to further it with spreading it to many people to be able to be helpful.

He visits many countries to tell his methods, aiming to educate people about coping with their problems, maybe to be a sign of hope. Anyway, I will talk about the video I watched today, that is an applicable style of changing negative behaviour. What he tells there is that the depression is something we create with our unrealistic thoughts about our lives. Maybe a financial problem, maybe our failure at our school, a failure at our jobs , at our private lives. The people with depression has fantasies about their lives so when they are not able to reach that fantasies they are upset , down and feel depressed.

What he suggests about depression is that to think about the "drawbacks" of our fantasies, and think about the "now"; what we have in our hand. And according to his method,we should stop and think the "now", if we are able to neutralise the drawbacks of the fantasy part and define the benefits of your lives and balance them at the "0" level, then the depression is cured. Some people define this method as another version of understanding the thanksgiving , but it should be accepted that it is a different way of a cure other than medicines and the supplements.

And again according to him, we can challange our unrealistic expectations and break our habits doing this exercise. Do not forget, the point is to balance the drawbacks and the benefits!

source: drdemartini.com

The Superego And The Negative Sides

The superego is the sudden voice you are afraid when you break the vase on the table when you're a child.
It is you mother's, it's your father's voice... It is the authority creates our insecurities...
When you are not allowed to do something, your superego becomes active. It directs your mental behaviour. When something enjoyable calls you, it is the voice that says don't go, stay calm... It seems that this thing is not a part of a joy... Always claims the logical part of ourselves...
If we can overcome superego, you can:

*tell mummy we will not choose the medicine at university and will be a musician instead.

*fall in love with someone and do not think the rest...

*do not feel too much guilty about the broken vase.

*go out with the shiny mini red dress even if you are at your 70's.

Everybody needs approval from around and directs his feelings accordingly. But if we continue to expect approval all the time at every point of our lives then comes the nightmare.Here, the self confidence steps in. And the more we can cope with life alone, the more brave we might be...The more we believe in ourselves, the more we can get succeed.

Good Memories For Good Future

Every moment of life we live in, we see angry faces around. Taxi driver shouts, your mum reproves, your neighbour whinges...Some of us cry, most of us responds in the same direction, they would get angry, they may not cope, the weak ones collapse, the stronger ones bear with it.
So, why are some people strong while the others are so weak, have you ever thought? Of course we all have different family histories, have different grown up forms, variant brains, thoughts, and decisions, wisdom naturally...

Have you ever thought a certain success of us comes from maybe from childhood, our parents' behaviour on a single case impacts our success story. Do you know the appropriate manners lead to a prosperous future. How many of us could create healthy memories for us , for our children? The life is too much alike the building. When you set up it with high-quality materials, you gain stable structure, this is obvious.

If your childhood is full of bad memories, this building becomes like a slum house. You know it would collapse one day , maybe you do not have anything to do, but one thing you can do is to hope, pray if you are religious, think positive, and stand up and realise that the life goes on and will end one day at a day you may never know sometimes.

Of course it seems easy to give advise like a grandmother, it is easy to speak from the outside. You see people had lost all the family members, you see people had cancer, had family members with serious illnesses, they smile every day thanking God for not having worse.

Please smile everyday while waking up and catch the sun rise, praise for every breathe you are able to take and say it :" This life is only mine".